Wanting

My cat Pip always knows what he wants. And he asks for it directly and clearly. Same with Pookie. She always knows what she wants and never hesitates to ask for it as clearly as she can.

Then there's Dee Dee and Little Dudely. They used to always know what they wanted, and demand it. But as they're growing up they seem to be losing touch with that core of knowing.

Why is it that we learn to put aside our wants as selfish or not important as we grow up? I mean, who decides? What's wrong with wanting what I want? Sure, sometimes it might be inconvenient or I might need to ask for help to get it, but that's never stopped Pip or Pookie. Most of the time it doesn't stop Dee Dee and Little Dudely. But it stops me. Who taught me what's important or not, what's worthy of desire or not, what I should want or not? Shouldn't I be the one to decide what I want?

I've decided it's time to change my life. Enough of this putting my own wants aside, devaluing them because... because why? Because someone told me that what I wanted wasn't important? What do they know? Or that they didn't want it so I shouldn't? Or that it didn't have value? To whom? I ask. To whom?

If what I want comes from a true place deep inside of me, if it makes me feel buoyant just thinking about it, if I get all warm and fuzzy imagining it, then I will ask for it. And I will work to make it happen. No need to defend or justify.

Step 1: Identify my true wants.
Step 2: Identify what's stopping me from asking for them.
Step 3: Re-arrange my thinking.
Step 4: Ask for what I want directly and clearly - from myself, from others if I need help, from the universe.
Step 5: Be willing to take inspired action and repeat steps 1-5 until I get what I want (or change my mind).
Step 6: Along the way, relax into the wonderful flow of my life.

That's all I have to do... so simple... just not so easy. But it will be.
With practice.